Have you ever just opened your eyes one morning and thought, man…is this really my life? But not in a good way? It’s ok, you can admit that here. You aren’t a psycho for wanting to escape your life. This is a safe, judgement free zone where we’re real and honest…especially with ourselves.
So often we feel like we can’t feel the way that we really do because then we’re psychopaths. We reject our overwhelming emotions because that’s not the way we’re supposed to feel. We push aside the necessity of a break because we’re supposed to be strong.
We’ve all heard of this “self care” business but once you get out of the bath tub or leave Mr. Darcy you’re back to real life. You escaped for a little bit but was that really enough to recharge your soul and to breathe? You probably just wish you could crawl back into your book and be lost in the romanticism forever.
Some hard truths
Here’s what I want to share with you…are you ready? Because it’s going to sound really messed up but it’s honest and it’s real life so hi ho silver! Sometimes we all want to escape our lives. We look at our lives and wish it wasn’t so. Maybe you’ve even been in a position where you totally understand how someone could walk away from their families.
I told you…hard truths. You wish you could be totally selfish. That your life could be yours again but instead? You’re catering to your job, your kids, your spouse, your pets, your parents…all. of. the. time. You wish you could run away to Tuscany and settle into a little cottage sitting on top of a hillside overlooking the village below.
All responsibilities out of the window. You don’t want anyone to miss you, you just wish for total freedom. You get it don’t you? You’ve been there before.
You aren’t a psycho
Listen…it doesn’t make you a psycho. It makes you a human. You are a woman and for some reason we have this nature to care for others so much so that our hearts break and we can crumble trying to hold everyone else together. It’s no wonder we want to run away sometimes.
Some advice? I’m totally serious here…seek some counseling. If it is a worrisome regular occurrence that you’re experiencing these flighting feelings, it’s probably time to talk to someone about it. How do you know when it’s time? When your breath caught in your throat a little when I recommended it. That’s probably a good indicator.
Now if you’re not having those feelings all the time and you’re just having a rough day, let me offer some encouragement here huh? Encouragement isn’t always received as such but when it’s laced in truth, it’s meant to bring life.
You were made to be helper. God literally made Eve to be Adam’s helper and companion [Genesis 2:20-24]. So from the very beginning, women were created to help. I know…you’re welcome.
On top of being a helper? You were created to be selfless and be joyful. To put other’s above yourself. Philippians 2:3-4 says, “Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. 4 Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.” [ref.]
Count others as more significant than yourselves! And be happy about it!
This is how we know we need Jesus. Because we’re only human. Our minds and our hearts are selfish and we just don’t want to do it sometimes, amen?
On the other side of eternity
Fret not sister! You know that on the other side of eternity, those feelings will go away. The “gross” feelings, shame, selfishness will go away. Not only will it go away…your obedience will be rewarded. Here, I want you to watch this from Francis Chan…trust me….
I told you you would want to watch it! Let me leave you with this promise
“But there’s far more to life for us. We’re citizens of high heaven! We’re waiting the arrival of the Savior, the Master, Jesus Christ, who will transform our earthy bodies into glorious bodies like his own. He’ll make us beautiful and whole with the same powerful skill by which he is putting everything as it should be, under and around him.” Philippians 3:20-21 MSG
Seek counseling or coaching
You aren’t a psycho. Seek counseling if you need it. Reach out for a coaching session here if you’d like to chat with me personally. I totally have your back, I get it.